My kiddos

My kiddos

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Possibilities

 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  (Jeremiah 29:11)

   We have 3 potted chrysanthemum flowers- they are one of my absolute FAVORITE’s! For me, they seem to usher in the season of pumpkins, foggy mornings, and apple cider . For some reason, though, I have always had a hard time taking care of them. The ones I grew last year died out early, so this year I was DETERMINED to learn all I could about mum’s.
    Last month Ben came with me (he’s our resident gardener- he LOVES flowers) to pick out our 3 new plants. He carefully chose fiery red, deep orange , and his favorite- the daisy mum. They’ve been doing really good, and we’ve been trying to take good care of them.
    His daisy mum is by our front door, and it’s beautiful. A couple days ago though, I noticed the petals were turning brown on the edges. I quickly got online and learned a little more about deadheading- Plucking off the dying flowers to keep the plant healthy. I sat down and got to work.
    I was about a quarter of the way done when I heard a gasp, and then a muffled sob. I turned and there was Ben standing behind me with crocodile tears coming down his cheeks. “What are you doing to my flower?”, he choked out, “You’re killing it!”
   “No buddy, I’m trying to save it! We have to do this to keep it healthy.” I tried to explain.
   “But it was beautiful, mom, and you’re taking all the pretty flowers off!” He was crushed. I am always in awe of how the most ordinary of moments can become something very special. I wasn’t planning on having a heart to heart. I was planning on getting yard work done. God had other plans.
   I pulled him over to me and sat him down right by the flower. “I want to show you something,” I said. “Do you see the petals on these flowers? They’re all starting to die.”
   He looked closer. “But from far away they look fine.” He said.
   “That’s true. But when you look close they are brown all around the edges. Now, look closer inside the plant.” I parted the dead flowers so he could see inside. “What do you see underneath?”


    He looked and then his eyes got wide. “What are all those tiny balls?” he said.
   “Those are tons of brand new flowers trying to grow, but they can’t because of all the other flowers that are blocking the sun from them.”
    “Oh, so we have to pick off the dead ones so the new ones can grow?” He seemed to be getting it.
    “Yep, if we don’t do this, it might be pretty for awhile longer, but the mum won’t be healthy, and soon it will just die.”
    "I don't want that to happen at all." He said. So he helped me finish plucking off the flowers, and soon  it looked very bare- but FULL of possibilities! He ran off to continue crashing monster trucks into each other and I sat down by the flower pot. I looked at the freshly plucked plant, and then at the pile of dead flowers.
   That’s ME- that’s YOU. That’s US. God is always at work in us, he knows our potential- our possibilities. He sees what’s underneath, what’s in our hearts. Sometimes we might look OK from far away, but God is working to peel back our layers, so the world can see our potential!
    I don’t know about you, but it’s scary to make a change. It’s HARD to take a step of faith. It’s painful to step out of our comfort zone. But sometimes we have to be willing to take a chance, to “cut off” the parts of us that are dying, or holding us back, in order for God to use us for HIS glory.
   Ephesians 4:22-24 says, “You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by it’s evil desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on a new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”
    Let’s not be afraid to let God peel back our layers! He is ready and waiting to do AMAZING things in our lives- to use us in His ultimate plan. We may react like Ben did- with utter disbelief. But let’s be willing to look deeper, and see all the possibilities God has for our life!

2 Corinthians 5:17- “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!

Thursday, September 20, 2012

M&M's please


   This morning while snuggling with Kate, I asked her what she wanted for breakfast. I said, “We have bacon, cereal, strawberries, eggo waffles, yogurt.”
  She said “I’ll just have M&M’s mommy.”
  I broke the news to her -“Sorry, that’s not even an option.“ She frowned.
Girl after my own heart….

Best friends


A couple days ago I picked Ben up from kindergarten and he was really pumped up. Obviously he’d had a very good day. He told me how he won an award for being a 5-star listener, got to be a helper, and the “mean” girl didn’t take his soccer ball at recess. All great things.
Then he announced “And I have a new best friend!”
I said, “That’s awesome! What’s his name?”
“I have no idea. But we’re best friends!” He said happily.
Interesting

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Urgent care- again...

Never a dull moment...Kate and I ended up at Urgent Care last night. She had a pretty bad asthma attack and needed 3 breathing treatments. Let me tell you- keeping a 2 year old still for 3 hours holding a mask to her face was not easy- I think I got a few more gray hairs. If you think about it, say a quick prayer for her that she will REST so we can kick this thing!


Random fun stuff

The kids started some fall sports..Ben is playing indoor soccer and LOVING every minute of it. And I LOVE the fact that he is running for 60 minutes and TIRED :) Emma is doing gymnastics and loving that too- she's very torn between swimming and gymnastics, so we'll see what happens...

Soccer dude!

This last weekend we got to hang out with Dave's brother Brian and his kiddos- Emma and Bella are pretty much inseparable.. they really love each other :) 


Hanging out after a fun afternoon of swimming!

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Who will you choose?


   It all started as a simple quote from my 5 year old son. One night as I was tucking him into bed he said to me, “Mom, I love you more than thunder eggs and sand dollars.” I smiled, gave him a quick hug and went to say goodnight to the girls. It wasn’t until a few weeks later that God brought those sweet words to my mind again, and just wouldn’t let them fade.
    You see, Ben doesn’t just like those things. He LOVES them. He is a passionate collector of beautiful things. He treasures each and every rock, shell, feather, coin or birds nest he finds. If you threw one of his treasured rocks out into our gravel driveway, he could find it. He knows exactly what they look like. He loves them.
     As the Lord spoke to my heart, I was hit by a sudden realization. Ben was telling me a lot more than just I love you. He was also declaring how important I was to him. He loved me more that all those other things he also loves.
    Then the tables were turned on myself. Whenever God brought Ben’s words to my mind, all I could think about was “Do I love God more than _______?” You can fill in your own blank. For me, I could fill it in with hundreds of things. Do I love God more than my husband, my precious kids, my family, my free time, TV shows, my friends, my pride, my hobbies, my computer, my status, my sinful desires.
     Of course I can say that I love God more than all of these things, but do my actions testify to this? Do I carve out time with God the way I make time to watch my favorite TV show? Or desperately look forward to my time with God in prayer like I look forward to a date with my husband? The answer was NO…and that was very humbling.
     I was humbled a second time this month by something my daughter said to me. About a week before school started my husband and son decided to have one last campout in the backyard. The girls and I preferred the comfort of our own beds, but I still wanted to make the night special for them. I let them choose a movie, we painted our nails and ate smores over the stove. Then Emma and I played Barbies until 11:30. We had a blast.
    A few days later I was sitting at the edge of Emma’s bed saying goodnight. The next day was the first day of school after a fun-filled summer. I asked her, “So, what was your FAVORITE thing we did ALL summer?”
As she thought about it my thoughts drifted back through the last 2 ½ months of camping trips, museum adventures, swimming lessons, bike rides, trips to see family, sleepovers, vacations and friends. She looked at me with a big smile on her face and said, “Playing Barbies with you all by myself for 2 whole hours- that was the best!”
     Wow. Later, as I lay in bed, I realized what the difference had been. She loved doing all the other things too, but this was her favorite because it made her feel special. She knew I was choosing to spend my night playing with her, no distractions getting in our way. I was truly focused on her, listened to her, laughed with her, was silly with her. And that made her very happy.
     Doesn’t God desire just that with us? To truly have our undivided attention with no distractions? He delights in our company, he wants a relationship with us, he wants us to choose Him. Rev. 3:20 says, “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with them, and he with Me.”
    I just started a Beth Moore Bible study called, “A Woman’s Heart”, and I love how she words this : “God doesn’t just love us. He also likes us!”
   I desperately want to walk with the Lord. Every day. My prayer is that we can honestly say, “God, I love you more than thunder eggs and sand dollars”. I want to set aside distractions and choose time with my Savior. Just like Emma said to me that night, I want to be able to say, “My favorite part of the day was being in the presence of the Lord.”
     I will leave you with this verse that is resonating in my heart today:
Joshua 24:15 “Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve…But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”


Friday, September 14, 2012

America's Got Talent

    We were just a little (Ok.. a LOT) into America's got talent this summer. The finale was last night and we wouldn't let the kids watch it because they had school today. So, they got up early to see who the winner was :) And the act they LOVED actually won it all this year. Always fun to start the day off with jumping up and down screaming at the top of your lungs excitement. Anyway, before she left for school Emma wrote this note to Dave, who didn't get to watch it with us :) Hahaha...






Wednesday, September 12, 2012

For the love of meatballs


   While Katie was eating lunch today I was getting dinner going in the crockpot (and no, I don’t do this every day-ha!). She said, “Are you making sketti and meatballs mommy?” I nodded.
   “Yummy!” she said. Then it was time to take a nap.  She was quiet for awhile, and then I heard a bang on the door and she yelled, “I’m ready for my meatballs now mommy!” I went in and told her they were for dinner and she needed to go to sleep.
    5 minutes later she started crying and saying over and over again, “I need those meatballs, I need those meatballs soo bad!” For the first 15 minutes I thought it was just a ploy to get out of her nap, but now half an hour later I’m thinking the girl just loves her some meatballs….

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Remembering

I can't believe it's been 11 years. I was asleep in my college apartment when my mom called. She just said, "Turn on your TV, something awful is happening." It seemed like the end of innocence. A turning point. Deep sadness that people could do this. Today I will pause and pray for the families who lost loved ones. Children that lost parents. Parents that lost children. And let's pray for our country and it's leaders, for our brave armed forces, and pray that people will look to God above all else.



Pictures by Alicia :)

My sister Alicia took some pictures of the kids this last weekend. I'm so happy about this! The pictures I have hanging on my wall now are very outdated- I think Katie is 6 months old in them!  HA! thats the third kid for ya... So, we needed some fresh new pictures, and Alicia got some great ones...Thank you so much for taking the time to do this, and it's amazing that she got them all smiling :) Here they are!











Never a dull moment


My mom called to ask the kids how their first day of school went. She asked Ben lots of questions, and in typical Ben fashion, he wasn’t giving a lot of information.
Then she asked, “Well, who did you sit by?” Long pause..
“Ummm..I have no idea who I sat by. I didn’t look to the sides of me either way.” He said.
   Apparently he was looking straight ahead all day not making eye contact with anyone.

I asked Emma what kind of ice cream she wanted for movie night- cookie dough or peppermint. She has ALWAYS loved cookie dough. She thought about it, and then said, “I’m becoming too grown-up to eat cookie dough ice cream, I think I’m old enough to eat peppermint now that I’m in third grade.”


Me: “Ben, Daddy’s out front hanging up the rope swing for you and Emma.”
Ben: (jumping down from his bunk bed) “Really? Awesome! I’m outta here like a soda can!”
Me: “Huh?”
Ben: (yelling while running down the hall) “You know, how when you shake a soda can the pop comes out really fast! That’s me!”
     I REALLY truly wish I got that excited about little things like this…

“Mom, I’m gonna be outside practicing my flips off of the rope swing- but don’t worry, I’ll be wearing my helmet.” - Ben Hughes

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

1st Day of school 2012 !

We were very ready for school! Here is our 3rd grader- love this little lady!


Mr. Kindergarten. He was born ready...

I love these two soo much! Can't wait to see what this year will bring :)

Dave and Emma....

Kate insisted on holding Ben's hand as his class toured the school. He was embarrassed at first, but she was pretty persistant. He finally said, "I'll hold your hand if you walk a little faster."

Now I am going to drink some coffee..........LOTS of it :)



Is it time for school yet?


   Yesterday Emma and Ben were fighting over EVERYTHING. They fought over the tooth paste, the remote control, who got a bigger cookie, who got more ice cubes in their drink, who had to feed the dog, who had to sit by Katie at dinner (they did resolve this by actually sitting next to each other in order to avoid ‘Messy Kate‘) and who got to be the judge on their game show. I could go on and on.
    Emma's patience came to an end as we were driving in the car. Ben apparently kicked her seat one to many times. She lost it. She screamed, “I have had to be with Ben ALL summer and I just need a break from him! He’s driving me crazy!” Then the tears came. Sobs, really. I could sympathize.
   I looked at Ben in the rearview mirror thinking it maybe hurt his feelings. He was just staring out the window. The he said, “I think Emma needs a nap.” Yeah, that went over really good, too. Is it Wednesday yet?

The next morning I found this sign on her door. I guess she was being proactive...